Many children struggle with confidence in their ability to succeed in school, sports, arts, or relationships. And sometimes the difference whether they succeed or not boils down to kids’ faith in themselves: if children don’t believe in themselves, they are less likely to succeed. You can help your children understand how to set clear goals and reasonable expectations. Moreover, you can teach them how to boost their confidence and improve self-esteem.
Why Does Confidence Matter?
Strong, healthy confidence means that your children feel good about themselves and their ability to succeed. Children who struggle with confidence often have negative self-thoughts about their skills, competence, and worth. In turn, seeing themselves as unworthy or incapable may prevent children from accomplishing their goals.
However, being overconfident can have a negative effect as well. For example, if your child doesn’t study for a school test, assuming that they already know everything, it is to be expected that they may be unprepared and fail.
So, balanced confidence is key to healthy resilience and success.
Here are a few confidence-boosting strategies that will help your children change the mindset about their ability to succeed.
How to Teach Your Kids to Reprogram their Brains for Success
In an attempt to preserve its energy, our brain is programmed to stop putting effort after we several times fail to reach our goals. Therefore, if your child has repeatedly failed to reach specific goals, his/her brain will most likely switch to effort suppression mode.
Help Them Understand the Brain’s Neuroplasticity
Help your kids nurture a growth mindset, which involves confidence that their abilities and intelligence can develop with time and effort. Teach your children that their brain has the ability to change and adapt throughout life by forming new connections between the neurons or strengthening the already existing ones. This way we strengthen existing behaviors and expand them or adapt to entirely new behavior patterns, which allows our brain to adapt to new situations or a new environment. Help your children understand that if their brain is able to change, their mind has the same ability too.
Teach them Mindfulness
Help your children learn how to be fully present in the existing moment and aware of their thoughts and feelings without judging them. Mindfulness will enable them to become aware of their self-critical and discouraging thoughts. Moreover, mindfulness exercise can boost your children’s mood and improve their self-image.
Help your kids focus on their breathing and stay completely still for a few moments. Encourage them to repeat this exercise every day. Mindfulness should help them feel more relaxed. In addition, when a child becomes overwhelmed by the usual self-criticism, this exercise will help them note that those just their thoughts, not facts.
Help Them Set Realistic Goals
Help your child select desired but also achievable goals. Encourage them to start by setting clear, small goals that are easier to achieve and to focus on success. Furthermore, help your child plan strategies to accomplish desired goals. Teach them to enjoy the learning process, to be patient, and to have faith in themselves. Finally, encourage your child to be open for new opportunities and new lessons that they may take on along the way.