Breakups among young people can be equally disturbing. Often, they are more crushing, because there are established biases that minimize the heartache young people experience. So, there is much less support designed to help adolescents to bounce back when healing form heartache.Read More
People often refer to themselves as “swimming like a duck”. This is a reference to how calm ducks appear above the water but how fast they are paddling beneath to stay afloat. I myself have been known to use this analogy.
Today, however, I offer a new way of looking at “swimming like a duck”. One with a more positive frame. Ducks practice self-care and preen themselves in such a way that as water hits their feathers, it simply rolls off. How great would it be for us humans to learn how to perform self-care in such a way that as stressors hit us on a daily basis, we too are able to simply let them “roll off” our backs?
Being a teenager has never been easy. Adolescence is a period of growth and change. Teenagers naturally go through a phase of self-discovery and this often causes teen rebellion and confusion. For many teenagers, challenges of adolescence lead to disconnection, isolation, anxiety, and depression.
Thus, teaching teenagers self-compassion is vital in helping them understand themselves, the world around them, and their place in that world.Read More
Observing another human being suffering, you will most likely experience compassion for them. You will feel moved by other person’s suffering and compassionately respond to their pain with care and desire to help. Additionally, compassion means understanding others when they make mistakes or even disappoint you rather than skipping to the harsh judgment of their actions (or even worse, their personalities). Compassion means that you are conscious of common humanity, realizing that imperfection and suffering are parts of the shared human experience.
While we often readily offer our compassion to others, we tend to judge and criticize ourselves for the same shortcomings and flaws.Read More
Self-compassion is a powerful skill that we can learn and practice. Being compassionate towards yourself has many benefits. When you learn to be self-compassionate, you will begin to treat yourself with more understanding and kindness. You will also be able to experience deeper self-knowledge and self-love.Read More
Whether it is our feelings, some painful events from our past, our mistakes, our mental health, our life choices, our desires, we all have something that we don’t reveal and don’t talk about. Why do people hide things? The reasons are countless. People hold up the truth to protect their reputation, hide mistakes, conceal poor performance or simply look better.Read More
Using Facebook, Instagram or Snapchat is exciting and fun. However, these and similar apps can sometimes provoke feelings of loneliness, resentment or inadequacy. In addition, our online time may distract us from other things we'd like to. or should do.Read More
According to Kristin Neff, a leading researcher on self-compassion, “with self-compassion, we give ourselves the same kindness and care we’d give to a good friend.” Neff’s research demonstrates that self-compassion leads to improved resilience, more accurate self-concepts, along with less anger and narcissism. Thus, it is more beneficial to our mental health then self-esteem.Read More