According to Kristin Neff, a leading researcher on self-compassion, “with self-compassion, we give ourselves the same kindness and care we’d give to a good friend.” Neff’s research demonstrates that self-compassion leads to improved resilience, more accurate self-concepts, along with less anger and narcissism. Thus, it is more beneficial to our mental health then self-esteem.Read More
People often refer to themselves as “swimming like a duck”. This is a reference to how calm ducks appear above the water but how fast they are paddling beneath to stay afloat. I myself have been known to use this analogy.
Today, however, I offer a new way of looking at “swimming like a duck”. One with a more positive frame. Ducks practice self-care and preen themselves in such a way that as water hits their feathers, it simply rolls off. How great would it be for us humans to learn how to perform self-care in such a way that as stressors hit us on a daily basis, we too are able to simply let them “roll off” our backs?