AuthenticMe® Teens & Young Men

Is Your Son Struggling To Realize His Full Potential?

Are you concerned about your son’s emotional health? You may be noticing that your son is struggling with confidence issues.  Perhaps you noticed his grades slipping, or maybe you see the pressure he us under trying to manage school, sports or other activities. Is your son having difficulty with social and or familial relationships? Maybe you’ve even noticed he is not connecting with you the way the way he used to. Is he more defensive or maybe seem disinterested or on edge more often?

The teenage years and young adult time is very confusing. The pressures are immense. To perform in school. To perform on the sports field. To be a leader. To figure out what you want to major in in college. To be a contributing member of family and society. The list can seem daunting. And often times they tend to want to avoid difficult challenges in their life which slows down their growth and ability to reach their potential. A life coach can assist your teen or young adult face these challenges head on so that they can mature into exactly who they want to be. Adolescence is a crucial, formative time and you want to give your child his best shot at happiness and success, and navigating that path isn’t always as intuitive as a parent might wish.

Struggling During Teen Years Is Very Common

There are endless causes of teenage stress. Puberty alone creates an onslaught of hormones and causes bodies to change at different rates, inviting comparison which can be damaging. Friendships can be fluid in a way that feels hurtful, and beginning to write your own rules for romantic relationships is often emotionally draining. 

Middle school, high school, and the early years of college are challenging socially and academically. The course-load in addition to the work itself become more demanding, with more riding on one’s success as each year passes. Insular pressures (“Will my parents be proud of my grades?”) give way to larger pressures with much heavier implications (“Will I be able to get into a good college?” or “What do I want to do with my life?”). T

To be happy, teenagers need to take charge of their life, grow their confidence, become people-magnets, improve their lifestyle and follow their dreams. Today’s teenagers also have social media to complicate an already stressful time. These platforms can have a particularly damaging effect on boys and girls, with their identity becoming wrapped up in “likes” and “followers,” and the constant comparison to peers’ most flattering presentations of self.

This is all being grappled with by minds that are still learning and forming. So, it’s normal, if not expected, for teens to become overwhelmed. By extension, it’s very common for parents to feel concerned or incapable in the face of potentially erratic teenage behavior. Often when parents try to guide or engage their teens, it can escalate tensions rather than abate them. Parents will typically see a need, but ultimately feel unsure of how best to help their son. The good news is, there are ways to better understand and connect with your son. Working with a teen coach can help him to build confidence and communication so that he has what he needs to grow, and you can encourage him to do so.  

Teen Coaching Can Empower Your Child To Feel Secure And Accomplished

Coaching can provide truly effective ways to mitigate low self-esteem in your teen. The environment I provide for boys is warm and non-judgmental, and above all, flexible. We’ll do whatever works best for them, whatever makes them feel most comfortable. We can meet in their school, my office, over the phone (so they can be relaxing in their room), or anywhere else they would feel most at ease.

We’ll tackle their issues with confidence and identity by addressing their emotions, mindset, behavior, and spirit. I understand it’s not always easy for boys to express their emotions so we use tools that will illicit those emotions, such as simply using various rating scales and exploring those. This allows a chance for your son to discover and observe the emotions and feelings he has in a safe non judgmental space. Similarly, for mindset, we will check in on his state of mind, where his stress level is, how his moods are and energy levels. These are all crucial and powerful pieces to the puzzle of teen wellness.

We’ll work to recognize different behavior patterns, break them down, and come up with the most effective ways to handle stress. For example, we will review self-care and evaluate where he is with his current behaviors in terms of wellness, school, relationships and more.

Spirit will be addressed by allowing your son some time to be quiet and to allow his thoughts to be his. Teens are constantly on the go and inundated with non-stop messaging. Learning to close their eyes, sit in silent contemplation, and breathe will not only provide them with natural stress and anxiety relief, but it will also allow them to connect to and cultivate their intuition.

The benefits of life coaching can be visible in every part of your son’s life. Academics can gradually improve as he learns to better manage his time and believe in his abilities. Relationships can heal and strengthen through their effective and succinct communication. They will learn how to build confidence and trust themselves as they become more in tune with their mindset and behavior patterns.

For people to change, they need to find their strengths and use them to overcome challenges. Many times, it is the perception of the resources they have around them that will determine their strength in meeting these challenges. When teens feel they have many resources they can call upon when they need help to change, they become more confident.

Growth happens outside of the comfort zone, and sometimes, so does failure. But learning to be fearless and how to frame failures as lessons early on, will serve him greatly now and into adulthood. In addition to my youth life coach certification, I also have two sons of my own. I understand how much you care for your son and want him to be fulfilled; I will be committed to that journey alongside you.

You May Be Interested In Teen Coaching For Your Son, But Still Feel Hesitant…

I would like my son to see a coach, but I don’t know if he’d be interested.

I encourage you to trust your instincts as a parent and talk with your son about this option. He may have reservations, but that can be indicative of the sphere of fear that he’s been operating within, which is preventing him from reaching his full potential. If you can gently encourage him to at least speak with me, he may feel differently.

I’m his parent, shouldn’t I be able to guide him on my own?

The issues that your son may be experiencing are incredibly common and are not a reflection on your parenting. As the proverb goes, “It takes a village,” and having a 3rd (impartial) party come in to offer different perspectives is often just what a child needs. Working with a professional, will also take some of the strain off your relationship so that you and your son can enjoy each other more.

This is a normal part of growing up, my son will toughen up and get through this.

Unmanaged emotions and stressors will only resurface later on in life. Giving your son the tools that he needs now will not only help him navigate these young adult, but can set him up to be a productive and fulfilled adult.

You Can Equip Your Son With The Tools He Needs To Be Confident And Successful

If you’re interested in coaching for your son, please click here to schedule a free 30-minute consultation.