Is Your Daughter Struggling To Realize Her Full Potential?
Are you concerned about your teenage daughter’s development? You may be noticing that a once eager or successful young woman has begun to struggle. Perhaps you noticed her grades slipping, or that she’s losing interest in activities she used to enjoy. Is your daughter having a difficult time maintaining her friendships or her relationships with her siblings? Maybe you’ve even noticed she’s not connecting with you the way she’s been able to in the past. Does she seem disinterested in, or defensive about, her future?
Teenage years can feel like a bit of a minefield, especially for girls. For instance, is your teen struggling with body image and self-confidence issues? Maybe a sense of self-consciousness is even affecting her eating habits. She may feel worried that she’ll just never fit in anywhere. Moreover, she might be beginning to feel a little hopeless about her future, concerned that everyone around her has their lives mapped out, while she feels largely directionless. Is your daughter, like so many others, comparing herself to peers on social media and feeling like her life pales in comparison?
Adolescence is a crucial, formative time, which of course only adds to the pressure your daughter is feeling. And that pressure isn’t limited solely to her. You want to give your daughter her best shot at happiness and success, and navigating that path isn’t always as intuitive as a parent might wish.
Struggling During Teen Years Is Very Common
There are endless causes of teenage stress. Puberty alone creates an onslaught of hormones and causes bodies to change at different rates, inviting comparison which can be damaging. Friendships can be fluid in a way that feels hurtful, and beginning to write your own rules for romantic relationships is often emotionally draining.
Middle school, high school, and the early years of college are challenging socially and academically. The course-load in addition to the work itself become more demanding, with more riding on one’s success as each year passes. Insular pressures (“Will my parents be proud of my grades?”) give way to larger pressures with much heavier implications (“Will I be able to get into a good college?” or “What do I want to do with my life?”). Many life choices will be made in your daughter’s life between 12 and 19 years (college, relationships, relocating, first love, peer pressures, etc.). And whether they truly impact the course of her life, or she just feels like they will, it’s difficult terrain.
Today’s teenagers also have social media to complicate an already stressful time. These platforms can have a particularly damaging effect on girls, with their identity becoming wrapped up in “likes” and “followers,” and the constant comparison to peers’ most flattering presentations of self.
This is all being grappled with by minds that are still learning and forming. So it’s normal, if not expected, for teens to become overwhelmed. By extension, it’s very common for parents to feel concerned or incapable in the face of potentially erratic teenage behavior. Often when parents try to guide or engage their teens, it can escalate tensions rather than abate them. Parents will typically see a need, but ultimately feel unsure of how best to help their daughter. The good news is, there are ways to better understand and connect with your daughter. Working with a teen coach can help her to build confidence and communication so that she has what she needs to grow, and you can encourage her to do so.
Teen Coaching Can Empower Your Child To Feel Secure And Accomplished
Coaching can provide truly effective ways to mitigate low self-esteem in your teen. The environment I provide for girls is warm and non-judgmental, and above all, flexible. We’ll do whatever works best for them, whatever makes them feel most comfortable. We can meet in their school, my office, over the phone (so they can be relaxing in their room), or anywhere else they would feel most at ease.
We’ll tackle their issues with self-esteem and identity by addressing their emotions, mindset, behavior, and spirit. We may do an exercise called “happies and crappies” to address emotions, for example. This gives your daughter the opportunity to release emotions and thoughts about what’s making her feel good lately and what is having a negative impact. Similarly, for mindset, we will check in on her state of mind, and she can assess how she’s feeling, where her stress is, how her mood is, and what her energy level is like. These are all crucial and powerful pieces to the puzzle of teen wellness.
We’ll work to recognize different behavior patterns, break them down, and come up with the most effective ways to handle stress. For example, we will review self-care and evaluate where she is with her current behaviors in terms of wellness, school, relationships and more.
Spirit will be addressed by allowing your daughter some space to be quiet for a moment. Teens are constantly on the go and inundated with non-stop messaging. Learning to close their eyes, sit in silent contemplation, and breathe will not only provide them with natural stress and anxiety relief, but it will also allow them to connect to and cultivate their intuition.
The benefits of life coaching can be visible in every part of your daughter’s life. Academics can gradually improve as she learns to better manage her time and believe in her abilities. Relationships can heal and strengthen through their effective and succinct communication. They will learn how to build confidence and trust themselves as they become more in tune with their mindset and behavior patterns.
Through teen coaching sessions, your daughter can find her voice and become empowered in ways that will carry her through the rest of her life. Growth happens outside of the comfort zone, and sometimes, so does failure. But learning to be fearless and how to frame failures as lessons early on, will serve her greatly now and into adulthood. In addition to my youth life coach certification, I also have three daughters of my own. I understand how much you care for your daughter and want her to be fulfilled; I will be committed to that journey alongside you.
You May Be Interested In Teen Coaching For Your Daughter, But Still Feel Hesitant…
I would like my daughter to see a coach, but I don’t know if she’d be interested.
I encourage you to trust your instincts as a parent and talk with your daughter about this option. She may have reservations, but that can be indicative of the sphere of fear that she’s been operating within, which is preventing her from reaching her full potential. If you can gently encourage her to try something outside her comfort zone, it will likely be a great benefit to her.
I’m her parent, shouldn’t I be able to guide her on my own?
The issues that your daughter may be experiencing are incredibly common and are not a reflection on your parenting. As the proverb goes, “It takes a village,” and having a 3rd (impartial) party come in to offer different perspectives is often just what a child needs. Working with a professional, will also take some of the strain off your relationship so that you and your daughter can enjoy each other more.
This is a normal part of growing up, my daughter will toughen up and get through this.
Unmanaged emotions and stressors will only resurface later on in life. Giving your daughter the tools that she needs now will not only help her navigate her teenage years, but can empower her to be a productive and fulfilled adult.
You Can Equip Your Daughter With The Tools She Needs To Be Confident And Successful
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