Codependency and emotional fusion usually turn relationships into unfulfilling and challenging ones. If you are constantly making sacrifices, feeling guilty, and spending all your energy in meeting your partner’s needs, you may be in a codependent relationship.
Even for an adult person, it is hard to refrain from the basic need for cohesion with another being. Most people dream about finding a person who will give us this kind of closeness. In an attempt to resolve unhealthy emotional attachments from childhood, a codependent person usually seeks a relationship that will provide the idyllic state of togetherness.
However, unhealthy attachment style most often leads to constant emotional distress, anxiety, and depression. Also, codependency in a relationship can cause problems like eating disorders, alcoholism, and drug addiction.
Codependency is not a health problem but a deep-rooted behavior habit that can be managed with self-care and support. In a codependent relationship, limits are blurred and fused together. Developing safe boundaries is vital for overcoming codependency and fusion in a relationship.
How to Set Healthy Boundaries?
To improve your resilience and boost independence and self-esteem, you need to strengthen your personal, emotional mental, physical, and spiritual boundaries.
· Set Your Limits
Let your partner know what you are and what you are not comfortable with. Try not to take responsibility for your partner’s feelings and needs. Practice self-awareness and tune into your feelings. Give yourself permission not to feel guilty when your partner feels unsatisfied or unhappy.
· Act Assertively
Be direct when expressing your needs, thoughts, and emotions. Practice learning to say “no” and expressing yourself in an assertive but respectful way. Learn to live responsibly, not in guilt.
· Make Self-care Your Priority
Recognize your own needs and find the ways to fulfill them. Make sure you get enough sleep and stick to a healthy diet. Exercise daily, and find hobbies to enjoy on your own. Let your partner know that you need some time and space for yourself and don’t feel guilty about that.
· Express Gratitude
Studies have shown that expressing gratitude can considerably boost our wellbeing and life satisfaction. Practice counting your blessings each day – research shows that gratitude practice will help you experience more positive emotions and improve your self-esteem.
· Practice Positive Affirmations
If you want to establish healthy boundaries, start with your subconscious mind. Feed your subconscious with positive statements about yourself. Positive statements or affirmations can help you overcome self-destructive thoughts and reprogram your subconscious mind to attract positivity in your life.
· Practice Mindfulness Meditation
Mindfulness exercise can help you ease stress, improve your mood and increase optimism. In addition, mindfulness can help you stay focused on positive thoughts, boost your confidence, and improve your emotional intelligence.
· Seek Support
Counseling for codependency can help you identify and set clear boundaries, work on your false beliefs and replace them with more positive ones.
Keep in mind that change cannot happen overnight. Take small steps, seek support and keep practicing. To maintain healthy limits, you need to believe that those boundaries are necessary for your wellbeing and prosperity and work hard every day to keep them in place.